Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.
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She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot
You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.
Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.
Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you'll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.
"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.
Ask that girl out JFC!
Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.
They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.
The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.
I am sorry to hear that. It is not your fault. It is the fault of the bullies who did it and it is the fault of the adults that did not protect you. You were just a child. You cannot be expected to solve something so difficult as bullying all by yourself. Many adults cannot even do that. Apparently, the adults in your environment could not solve it, so how could you be expected to do it?
Regretting it does not help. Regretting it just prolongs the pain. It just keeps the idea alive that it is somehow your own fault and that you had control. You did not have control. However, you do have control now.
If you still feel invisible, do something about it. You do not need to still keep suffering the damage. That is something you actually can do something about now.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you are well.
You’re trans and mom’s headaches aren’t normal she needs to get them checked out
You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.
You'll regret buying Heroes of Might and Magic 3, but you'll soon appreciate its greatness. Also, hold off buying a game called Skyrim until the Anniversary Edition releases.
Always take spare batteries for your GameBoy
The real life changing advice ⬆️
- See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
- When in doubt, forgive others
"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."
Your parents are mentally ill. And you will be too. Ask them.
You have ADHD, fight until you get diagnosed ASAP.
Also, dad is a fucking bully, a liar and a manipulator. Don't trust him.
It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.
You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.
Don't go into manual labor.
Improve the child hood. Not much really.
Help someone else’s childhood. Yeah I’d alert the family to the problem with their dad before the abuse.
College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias
It's okay to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Don't let your fear of criticism stop you from trying new things.
When dad gives you advice, do the exact opposite. He's not stupid, the world has just changed so much since he was a kid.
"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"
Love your close family more, you will need it.
There aren't too many things I regret. I'd tell myself to keep my mouth shut in a couple places, don't start drinking coke, maybe buy and sell some bitcoin. But for the most part, there was a lot of good with the bad, and reward from hardship.
Don't drink.
You won't always be poor so don't worry about money.
Stay away from sugar, and only eat whole foods, this will make your life tremendously better (at least it did for me), even if you just start today.
The Chuck Taylor All Stars you wore to school are cool, and the douche who made fun of you for not having Nike Airs is a loser. In general, care less about what other people think and be yourself. And finally, join the band or orchestra instead of play football and learn a skill you can take with you for the rest of your life instead of getting your bell wrung for nothing.
All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.
It’s ok to go to therapy! In fact I encourage it 😁
Say no more often
Enjoy life to the fullest as a kid. Adulthood freaking sucks.
You don't have a learning disability and you don't belong in the special classes. Don't trust anyone that says it will be fixed the next year and go to a different high school when they say the classes you want are filled.
Don't get back together with her and don't fucking stay with her into college. She'll just break up with you, again, at Disney... again.
Mormonism isn't true, but she's worth it. (not the girl you think I'm talking about, she dumps you while you're on your mission.)