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[–] TheBananaKing 75 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Probably about 5-10 minutes most of the time.

Your brain chatters to itself all the time, so if you stfu with the inner monologue and instead just try to eavesdrop on what's going on in the background, that leads pretty much directly into a dream state.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

interesting, i might try your suggestions

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Thats called WILD!

Wake Induced Lucid Dreaming, hard to do but pretty cool if you can pull it off.

[–] KazuyaDarklight 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Same, I have sleep tracks I listen to as well that usually start with a relax/disrupt your self-think exercise and then start describing a scene, like a train ride through pastures, this is not the same as leaving the TV or YouTube running, or an audiobook; it's intentionally boring and low engagement but it gives you something to focus on listening to so that you don't get caught up in your own thoughts, similar to the eavesdropping.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

May I ask for some suggestions from your collection?

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Depends how stressful I am. Sometimes it's less than 5 minutes, other times I struggle to obtain the eepy stage even after 3 hours.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

Personally, I always find you extremely stressful

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Surprised I haven’t seen this response yet:

I say awake doing things until I am on the verge of passing out from being sleepy. If that means I only get 3 hours of sleep, then so be it.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What if you don't feel that tired the whole night? Would you not sleep and go to work after that sleepless night?

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[–] FlashZordon 32 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My wife is appalled that I'm asleep the second i hit the pillow. She could be in mid conversation with me in bed then she'll just hear snoring.

It's a gift and a curse.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn dude, what about cuddles and stuff :o

[–] FlashZordon 4 points 1 year ago

I'll fall asleep during the cuddles as well lol

[–] paddirn 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Anywhere between an hour or never. I have a small window of opportunity to fall asleep, if I miss it or my sleep gets disturbed, I’m screwed and there’s nothing I can do. I’ll just be tossing and turning the whole night. On work days I probably get about 5 hours of sleep, that goes to maybe 6.5 hours on the weekend.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

~1h, 30min if I'm lucky. And it have to be absolutely quiet or the timer will reset πŸ™ƒ

[–] a_new_sad_me 3 points 1 year ago

I'm sharing that pain with you.

On hot summer days, like now. I can find myself up for 2-3 hours due to the discomfort.

[–] jeffw 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I don’t get in bed until I feel my sleeping pill kick in, so not long

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Ages 0-38: one hour to 3 days, sleep 1-4hrs/session.

Ages 39+: 5-10 minutes. Sleep 7hrs/session.

I'm so tired all the time now.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Minutes, to hours, to not sleeping at all. It sucks.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

You guys sleep?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Usually about 20min? I set a sleep timer on podcasts for 30 min and i usually don't hear it stop.

When i can't fall asleep quickly, it's maybe an hour? Eventually sleep happens.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

before ritalin: 2 to 5 hours, or not at all

after ritalin: 15 minutes.

note I take the ritalin during the day, not to go to sleep

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Usually 5-10 minutes

[–] ren 6 points 1 year ago

Fast. It’s staying asleep that’s the hard part.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

An hour maybe to get some light sleep, and I can't get to deep sleep until 5 AM easily.

I remember a few years ago that suddenly this topic came up with friends, and turns out almost everyone sleeps nicely after 1-5 minutes in bed.

And I thought my case was normal (it's been like this since I was a kid). But I've been probably losing years of life without a way to gain them back. Depressing.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

When I am stressed , atsleast 3-4 hours but when I am not usually within 30mins.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

20 seconds. I’ve got 4 kids.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Some nights 15 minutes and annoyingly frequently 1-3 hours. It used to really worry me, but I've learned to make peace with it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Man, too long. Chronic pain has me in bed by 9pm, but it takes hours to actually fall asleep. Even with the sleepy meds..

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Fuckin hours wooooooooooooo!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Too long. I just can't not process things that happened, interactions with people, all that stuff. I'm not sure I even want to just drop when I finally have the time to thinks stuff before sleep.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Probably about half an hour or so.

Occasionally get a bad night where it takes me 2 or 3 hours to get to sleep. But it’s only if I’ve had a bad day in work or something that my head won’t quiet down about but it’s pretty rare and i can usually sort it out with some white noise earphones

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

It takes me an hour or so !! Once i am in bed , i play some video and fall asleep to it !

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Initial bedtime sleep takes a few minutes or so. If i wake during the night, it could take me hours to go back to sleep. If this is a daytime nap, that takes me like 20 minutes.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Usually 10 minutes. Reading a book helps if it's taking longer.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Once I put the Skyrim OST on it’s usually within two songs but sometimes it’s all the place.

[–] not_awake 4 points 1 year ago

It usually tak... Zzz zzz zzz

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

If I'm really tired, sometimes I'll just dose off in the midd

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

3 to 10 minutes, depends how sleepy I am

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Usually like 5 minutes or less.

I sleep worst when I have to get up extremely early and would benefit by falling asleep as early as possible. In situations like that, it takes me about two hours to fall asleep.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Usually between 6 and 8 hours

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Maybe 2 minutes normally. Hard to tell really. If I don't I have two strategies:

If I'm staying awake because of some captivating train of thought (stressfull or exciting or whatever) I mentally put it aside with the thought "I can't change that right now anyway I can deal with it tomorrow" and start trying to freely associate without focusing on any thought starting from some nice landscapes.

Otherwise if there isn't something obvious keeping me from sleep, I just start focusing on relaxing bodyparts and breathing deeply and slowly to stimulate my parasympathetic nervous system. That normally puts me out quickly.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

It happens instantaneously. After some waiting.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Anywhere between 7 minutes and 3 days.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Less than 30 min if I turn the TV sleep timer on 30 min and listen to something quiet/boring. Not sure that's the best way to do it, but it works.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

As far as I can tell most nights I fall asleep immediately. Occasionally I'll have some trouble but not so often that I can remember the last time.

[–] Zippy 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have discovered audio books can help me fall asleep in minutes. Just set the timer to shut off in an hour.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Sometimes two hours.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Typically <10 minutes, but under <5 quite frequently. If I get woken up in the middle of the night or very early morning, good luck. I have such a hard time falling back asleep as I get older.

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