My childhood gave me both! Hooray.
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Is it the attempt?
Will they continually, successfully deceive/bully me? Or is someone just always gonna try?
Bullied. At least then I know where I stand and who to avoid.
As a middle-schooler back then, I already disliked my own appearance, so I didn't know where I stood. I haven't been deceived often; in fact, I can't remember more than one major instance. I think the bullying was more damaging as it was so brazen as to not mind even other passersby noticing. I've still struggled with my appearance ever since.
Only people with a certain minimum self-confidence know where they "stand." I think for everyone else, bullying can be worse.
You don't always know when you've been deceived, and that's exactly my point. There are probably many more times you were deceived by someone you trusted and continued to be deceived by them., but you wouldn't know, because you were deceived.
I might prefer to just not know, then. Again, bullying is typically public so it's also almost guaranteed to be embarrassing, which is an additional negative effect. Deception could just involve only you and the deceiver over something specific for which they might even have some semblance of a reason or motive.
I'm sure I'm being deceived all day, every day. But if I'm happy regardless, then I'll take blissful ignorance.
To be clear, no one is saying they want to be deceived. But in this thought exercise, you and I agree on why we're choosing it over being bullied ❤️
I've been bullied and deceived. The bullying has done more lasting damage.
The thing about being deceived is you don't know when it's happening.
Both definitely suck
Bullying bc i got a fat cock and they can't take that away from me
Bullied, way easier to shut down a bully.
Bullied. I could at least get peace in solitude.
If I was deceived though, I would absolutely hate myself as I go along realizing who screwed me over and what they made me do. I'd become paranoid not knowing who to trust. Being alone might keep me away from getting deceived again but I wouldn't forgive myself for my past gullibility.
Well given the scenerio takes one away that i'm already dealing with?
Bullied. It's more straightforward.