Sometimes "Suck it the fuck up" is good advice, sometimes it isnt. Sometimes "Process this later" is healthy, sometimes it isnt.
Emotional health is knowing what you need and when.
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I think that it's healthy when you have to do something right fucking now. Otherwise, no, be in the moment.
I honestly read this and until I saw the comments I assumed they were gaming and she locked in league champ select which is a valid time to cry seeing as youre about to play league.
I genuinely lold. I also still kinda miss lol
Told my 5 year old to cry quietly once... cried louder.
Its terrible advice. Crying is good for you.
It's terrible advice if you struggle with it.
I however cry quite easily. In hindsight all this "don't suppress your feelings" advice honestly always felt more directed at boys and men.
Learning to turn off and distract yourself from bad feelings is also a skill. I think quite a few people - especially women - struggle with that, me included.
Crying is good for you. Lighthearted encouragement and camaraderie is also good for you.
Eh, it depends on the situation. There is definitely a time and place for locking your emotions down. Most people will never need it though.
Maybe for the sake of maintaining social status, sure, but that's a sacrifice. Its just straight up physically unhealthy to stifle crying however.
Oh no I mean like physical requirements. Like on the side of a mountain you're climbing.
Cry all day then for maximum health?
Save your tears today
You might need them tomorrow
Mine ran out too soon
I don't feel healthy :'(
Cry harder?
What does 'lock in' mean in this situation?
Yours faithfully,
a confused Brit.
Cowboy up.
Get your boot straps out the dirt.
Cryers don't get healthcare.
(Okay I'm running out of Americanisms)
It's telling someone to stop being emotional.
I'd say it's telling someone to focus on a task at hand
Yeah but if that task isn't something that someone's life depends on turn it's a pretty dick move.
Like "I need to lock in and finish this essay" sort of thing
You can ask for an extension.
Is there context here that I'm missing? I'm confused
Yeah an essay isn't an emergency. Telling someone they have to stop crying is physically and mentally harmful. So doing so without some on going reason they absolutely have to stop is a dick move.
Stiff upper lip old chap!
God, it's like none of you speak Brit.
I see it as Stay Focused
Gen Z slang for saying "get it together and focus"
Ah ok, thanks.
Where I'm from a lock in is a pub illegally serving drinkers after time by locking the doors.
Lock ins were all night parties for kids when I was growing up. Parents in 80s USA, wow.
Could be both..?
Undoubtedly, apologies if it was understood that I spoke as the sole arbiter of lock ins.
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Ok... So maybe this is a dumb question, but is it helpful to hear that when you're having a hard time?
It depends.
It could mean just try to put bad thoughts aside until the workday/workweek ends and really try to get intentional tunnel vision. In a corporate world of hell capitalism, I get it. Not a great sign that we have slang for it, but I get it.
It could also mean emotionally disconnect for the next while and just do what's mechanically important (work, often gym). This one's worse and it's what you're thinking of.
It's been used a fair bit around me.
i think it could be, depending upon circumstances. likewise, i think it could also be actively harmful (depending upon circumstances).
And personality type.
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After all the stories about how male authors can't do realistic female characters, someone reversed it and asked how could you instantly tell if it was a woman describing a man.
The book 'The Outsiders' is about a bunch of tough guys who spend a lot of time talking about their feelings.
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