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I get the sentiment with posts like this, but I hate them. They're so disingenuous to me. If someone reads them and gains something positive from the message then good, but I just hate them.
Said nobody ever. Not blaming anyone. It's just an observation.
This isn't realistic.
I've dealt with depression before.
People will say they want to support you and want to know what's going on. If you describe a problem, the person listening almost always offers a solution. If you start to explain why their solution won't work, they almost instantly get super annoyed and may suddenly become unavailable the next time you call.
People want to think of themselves as the type of person who would be supportive of a depressed person, but most "supportive" people who feel this way still adhere to normal social mores and expectations and get pissed or annoyed when a depressed person doesn't follow them. It's also super hard for a depressed person to simultaneously discus their depression and adhere to unwritten social niceties.
If I as a depressed person keep my feelings to myself, if I get better I still may have friends and if I die at least some people may show up to my funeral. If I lean on non-depressed people for support, they will expect normal social responses that adhere to unwritten codes and will get annoyed, the result being for me at best fewer friends and at worst a cremation with no one who cares about the ashes.
Honestly fuck that tweet or whatever. Shit like that is bout making society feel better with corporatesque platitudes like "Mental Health Awareness is Important! See something say something!" or whatever empty cheerleading slogan exists to encourage the workers while the most poor of all rot on the street (unless they fall asleep, causing them to be arrested, whenceupon they are fed in jail). Most people do not give a fuck, that's why a homeless subpopulation exists, fuck this planet and fuck empty tweets like this.
Thank you for expressing what I've never been able to put into words
You guys have friends and family?
I have a friend that pops up every so often. And my parents never say hi to my friend. Rude.
Never understood it all cause i'd sooner kill someone else than myself. Why would I kill myself? That seems strange. I would lose then, someone would win. Probably have some depression though, I mean I ought to have considering the theoretical state of things. No way I am gonna give satisfaction to anyone tho
No. I am going to eat my veggies, exercise daily to keep up my body as my temple, no drugs or alcohol and take care of myself. If only to show how much better I am than these fuckers. I will swim as they sink to the bottom. I will win and thrive at any price, at any cost. Some day I will drink tea on their graves, or just look at them with pity and compassion, throw some coin their way.
It is a dark souls game it all but you cannot just give up and quit to the desktop. no. we will crack that boss sooner or later and when we do, we will become more amazing than anyone can imagine. It is just a matter of time.
If your will to live is to "win" against other people, I'm glad it keeps you going. But surely you can imagine that not motivating everyone?
You for example, meliaesc, are a black box to me. I will try to find out who is the person I am talking to on the web and search for their posts just to understand what is going on. Who they really are and what’s their motivation. How they function and what values they have. Just to have a context in which I can interpret the message that otherwise is ambiguous. What is the real intent here?
Only through years passing by, trial and error and reasoning from the past I have learned that this is maybe not the usual style of thinking. That this inability to imagine what is going on in somebody's else's head or if anything was actually quite problematic a lot of times. Creating unnecessary divisions, sometimes even drama.
I have a natural ability to spark controversy that can be only restrained by carefully following most rigid of codes and behaviors but I don't bother with that on the web :)
I have problems imagining how other people think to begin with. That’s why I stick to programming. that’s way easier puzzle to crack than the extremely complicated human society. I prefer variables and functions to constant guessing games
I declare a constant and it has a logical and predictable purpose. That’s quite beautiful
Give me a random person and I am unable to even conceptualize what they think about me or if they think anything at all or even that they are indeed the same conscious people as me. It blows my mind on those rare occasions when I realize that someone sitting in the car nearby is actually an independent person.
So to answer your question. No I don’t think I can imagine that to be honest.
Why burden someone who has their own plethora of issues with my personal issues?
Everyone's fucked ATM, how could you not have some form of mental issues with the way everything is atm? You can't look anywhere without the grim reminders of how fucked we are, even if you actively avoid it.
We're a frogs sneeze away from WW3 and we all know damn well it's gonna be nuclear.
We bond over that shared trauma, then go kick rocks together to cope.
It’s not that I don’t want to burden others, it’s that I know they can’t do anything to help.
I wish. No one IRL treats me like this. Everyone's eyes glaze over or they freak out. There is no support.
That's the heartbreaking part - so many would genuinely rather hear about your death than have to suffer your "whining" (most would not admit that though). I suppose it takes all kinds of people in this world...
Yeah my wife kinda said she was tired of hearing me be depressed. And now she wonders why I'm a bit closed off today, or numb.
Those are really difficult emotions to deal with. I've been there, with friends, partners and spouses. It's hard. I wish I could help more but all I can say is you're not alone. I know it hurts. I hope you find something to smile about today ❤️
Came to say the same thing. It’s awesome to be optimistic and wholesome, but very few people care that in depth. It’s also really hard to shoulder someone at that level.
Especially with males.
I also have clinical depression and I really get the lack of support. Nevertheless, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. I think what he's emphasizing is the "no one" part. There are some, fewer than id like, people that want to see the world a better place and we gotta support each other
I understand the message but for those suffering, be forewarned, not everyone can understand what you're going through. People that love you and care about you will just stare at you and say: "umm ... okay". It is not a judgement against them or their character that they don't understand it.
I say that as someone that was clinically depressed. It was helpful for me, and I can only speak for myself, but try to find others that are feeling the same way and talking to them. It's far easier to speak to others that "get it". That's not to say you shouldn't open up to your friends ... I have and I don't regret it. However, don't expect everyone to understand what you're going through.
I hate that this took me till i was a father to figure this out. And even then my kids were in there late teens to twenties beforehand it really sunk in.
How can I expect my kids to open up to me if I won't open up to them.
What a tastefully named gentleman. Thank you kind sir.
Beautiful name because it's a riff off of Thelonious Monk, a beautiful jazz musician that I place in my top 3 of musicians. Other two being John Coltrane and Miles Davis. Honorable mention would be Chet Baker as he is definitely up there, but listening to Chet just brings you into a whole different mood. Much preferable on a gloomy, rainy day with a cup of coffee or tea in hand.
Anyways, Fuck Nazi's.
I saw Felonious Munk at the DC Comedy Loft in Dec 24. Top notch show. Mental health was part of his set and was well received by the audience.
Tks
Based take
A lovely sentiment, but unfortunately it has no basis in point of fact reality.