no, no and no, but you will have to find an answer if your decision to have or not to have kids was the right choice in any case.
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I would love to have kids someday, but we aren't financially prepared yet. I'm envious of people playing with their kids, or even just mundane tasks like taking them to school or going shopping with them on the back of their parents' bike.
Unfortunately, I expect the next administration(s) to make it much more difficult for same-sex couples like us to try for AI + surrogacy or adoption, so we might be forced to wait. Hoping for expanded surrogacy and child credits, but even just writing that feels foolish.
My moral philosophy is to leave the world a better place than I found it, to have an overall positive impact.
In order to justify siring children I would need to balance it out somehow, like by raising multiple foster care children first or by donating sperm.
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Not in this economy u.u
I really want to have kids for a long time already, but just recently I got into a spot in life where it seems financially and personality-wise an option. For a long time I was aware that there still was a lot to develop in myself. I also wanted to see and do things, which came a bit short unfortunately, for said financially reasons. I am stillt super afraid of how things will turn out, if I am built for the strain, if I will love my kid(s) enough, teach them enough and at the same time if job-wise everything will work. I really worked hard for the job I now have, but it is science-related and tnerefore I will never see a contract which lasts longer than three years. But I just know that I will regret not having at least one kid.
I have one. It's awesome. But don't do it if you're not absolutely sure you want it.
Yes
I feel like I should have a kid but I'll never meet a woman that wants me plus me being poor. It's a terrible combination.