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[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 days ago (2 children)

3, 4, and 5 I would tell to fuck off.

1 and 6 meh.

2 is probably the guy I would most want to listen to.

[–] Pronell 25 points 5 days ago (1 children)

2 is high as hell. He isn't wrong, but he's also medicating.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

Dude's got some with him for the hike.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

6 could fuck off too. I loathe these one-uppers.

[–] FireRetardant 23 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Sometimes they are just trying to relate by going "yeah I've had a similar experience" but it can come off as selfish if they focus on it too much or cut off your story to tell theirs.

[–] NegativeInf 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

My ADHD tells me to try and empathize by sharing a similar experience. It took me so long to realize people were taking it as "one upping" now I just don't share anything.

[–] FireRetardant 4 points 4 days ago

Yea same here. I've learned to let to them get their full story out, then I ask if I may share a similar experience,

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

I know. Specifically, I mean the kind of people where you can tell from the moment you start talking, they're listening not to your story, but for a hook to turn the story about them. I have a coworker like that, if I tell a story about something that happened to me this week, he'll tell a story about what happened to him or his family 20 years ago, which by the way is way worse/better. He is also always the hero in these stories. I find most of these people are deeply insecure and try to cover this with a big mouth. So, bully behaviour basically.

[–] stupidcasey 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I’ll take top middle since being active is proven to be one of the best things for depression and yes I know it won’t cure clinical depression but since he has no way of knowing what kind of depression you have it is genuinely good advice and said with the best of intentions.

[–] Agent641 -2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

He also wants you to join his vegan Crossfit gym. It's only $600/month. It's at a local park.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Trump voters have a pretty novel way to handle this. When they lost to Biden they didn't get sad, they got angry. Fast forward 4 years when they won and they didn't get happy, no, they got angry again. If all you feel is anger you have no room for sadness or happiness, just more anger.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Trump supporters: Have you tried being dumb and racist?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Why is the US election talked about under unrelated posts

Its not even a current event

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

I've never had one

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

My mother, who knows and supports my medication, and understands the swings, Is always telling me about this vitamin, or that herb, and often advocates walks in nature. Before diagnosis and medication, when I was in the lows, she would try to help with some of these, especially the nature walks. I would tell her that sure, it was proven it helps, but I'f I havent managed to get in the shower for a week, do you expect me to go hiking?

She was supportive and well meaning, and I appreciate the effort, but yeah fuck many of these.

[–] Agent641 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] WaxedWookie 0 points 4 days ago

That do be.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

tbf, I do have a great

[–] Dupree878 2 points 4 days ago

Where’s the girl that’ll get you in trouble or the plug you’ll go broke getting drugs from?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

What, no annoying cardio bunny to tell you to excercise more?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

In Canada : have you considered MAID

(Medical assistance in dying : aka suicide)

[–] Zerlyna 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Maybe I should do that again. Bad weekend, I kind of picked a fight with my partner and it seems we have broken up. It's our third major blowup in three years - well, my major blow up. But I'm not sure we were compatible either. And he blames my bipolar all the time.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Well, when I was untreated I definitely made my ex-wife's life worse. She called the it "The Jeckill and Hyde" and she wasn't all that wrong.

Are you properly medicated?

[–] Zerlyna 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

I did switch up meds a few weeks ago and he knew that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

I'm learning things from my journey. One is that a support network is very good. I'm lucky in that regard. OTOH, I'm slowly learning that even though desirable, it's not on others to deal with my problems. If they do I'm grateful, but I must accept that my condition is mine. Also, I've become very self conscious about my mood changes, much smaller and quite manageable, and can often mitigate the effects.

I had an alcohol problem, the old "self-medication thing", and found SMART Recovery, a science based peer support organization. They help learn very practical emotional regulation and coping strategies, a sort of DIY cognitive behavioral toolkit. That has proved immensely useful.

[–] Pothetato 1 points 4 days ago

Me: Yep, shit sucks.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

Yeah, that's all BS but have you tried smiling a little? Would look good on you!

[–] FlyingSquid 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I thankfully have not gotten those sort of reactions to my Type II BPD (although I don't talk about it much), but I sure get it all the time for another medical issue I'm dealing with. Even now that I have a probable diagnosis and am making progress, I still get armchair medical experts diagnosing me and telling me what I need to do to treat it. And I know most of them mean well, but it's so damn infuriating.

Also, not a single one of them has been right. Not one.