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[–] Lemminary 34 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I realized I had clinical depression for a while when I didn't feel sad but everything felt so meh. I'm doing fine now, though.

[–] Vebred 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] Lemminary 26 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (4 children)

I have no idea. It was probably a combination of a change in mindset and different lifestyle choices. I started exercising more often, eating healthier (lost 10 kg), pushing depressing thoughts out, weeding out toxic people, and rekindling my interest in some of my hobbies by forcing me to do them. I know this is probably not helpful and it's what's generally recommended but it worked for me this time. It took a few months to get out of the slump. Or maybe whatever was bothering me worked itself out or I got over it. But who knows!

[–] [email protected] 35 points 5 months ago

One of the terrible things about depression…that it makes it harder for you to do the very things that help reduce its effects like cook well, socialise, and exercise.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Im glad to hear that man, battling depression is no joke, specially on your own.

[–] TrousersMcPants 4 points 5 months ago

I know that my depression goes into remission sometimes, so I never know if I pulled myself out of it or if it just... Stopped

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Do you have any outside help when pulling it off? Maybe SO, or family?

[–] Lemminary 2 points 5 months ago

Yeah, I have good support from my family. They don't get too involved, but I can count on them to listen. That's definitely a factor I hadn't considered.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Well damn. It's less of a cool guide and more of a checklist for me...

[–] [email protected] 36 points 5 months ago

because it is a symptom checklist out of the DSM.

this has absolutely no business posing as a pie chart.

[–] Etterra 12 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Don't forget the irrational anger, most common in males. Thank gawd for therapy.

[–] debil 7 points 5 months ago (3 children)

One of the worst for me was thinking about the past, the people, the things that happened, the incidents, and finding out that it was always me or my actions that were the reason something went wrong for somebody. Everything, always. I guess this fits into the chart's self-loathing sector.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Not necessarily - e.g. if you've been shitty to people in the past (I say "if" but we've literally all done that:-P) then that's a natural process of growth to recognize that, hopefully make reparations and move toward healing, at least on your side but again hopefully on both.

Then again, your "actions" are not always up to you - e.g. if traffic made you late somewhere then that's at least partially out of your control - but you can only accept your own portion of responsibility there (reasonably anyway).

Be careful with "Everything, always" language bc it's always a lie:-|. e.g. I bet you could find a single instance, somewhere, where you did not do that. Perhaps find it and start to move forward from there?

[–] debil 2 points 5 months ago

I haven't been in that place for years, decades even. The "everything, always" was the feeling when the days were the darkest and I was pretty much a recluse in my apartment.

Luckily it didn't last for too many weeks and I got a lot better. Of course I did mistakes in my past, but when I think about how absurdly distorted view of the past events I had in my mind it reminds me of how the depression can really fuck a person up.

[–] SomeGuy69 2 points 5 months ago

It does not help that it gets confirmed every day. It's only possible to lie to yourself so and so often before it all comes back. It's all my fault.

[–] HootinNHollerin 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Depression is like being stuck thinking of the past and anxiety of the future

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

I thought this was a meme at first, then realized it was serious, oopsie doopsie

[–] PugJesus 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] dogsnest 3 points 5 months ago

it a lot us fr fr.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

What a relatable meme.... It is a meme right?... Right?...

[–] MichaelTen 1 points 5 months ago

Read the books The Theology of Medicine and The Medicalization of Everyday Life by psychiatrist Thomas Szasz.