Asklemmy

Transitioning. Turned me from an empty husk of a person suffering from depression with a nothing life who was just going through the motions into someone happy, with a million hobbies and endless thirst for life.

Even when I understood what GD was and how it was affecting me, I never expected just how much there would be to me once that dark cloud has been lifted, especially how much changed once I started passing well enough I'd be gendered correctly all the time. It was rough to DIY hormones as a teen, but 10 years later, I feel truly blessed.

Being adopted.

Breaking up with girl at 24 and always regretting it.

The pandemic.

The first big breakup which pushed me to reevaluate everything and then learning about this little thing call psychology which, eventually, led to the understanding that I have ADHD. That knowledge turned my whole world upside-down. For the better.

A few for me:

• Death of my father.
• Getting married. Hitting 20 years in August. Hopefully many more to come.
• Realising I didn't enjoy the business course I was on in college, burning the two years already spent and moving to computer science which I loved every minute of.
• Having kids. They bring me so much joy.
• Leaving a well paid job that I didn't really enjoy and starting my own business.
• Travel. It's so important to experience different cultures and viewpoints.
• edit: Finding a sport that I loved. I wasn't a sporty kid but decided to start trying different things in my 20s.

Probably getting a Gameboy Color as a gift from my mom as a young child, and then one more time when my mom let me play games on her (not made for gaming) home computer while she was at work. It started me down a lifelong path of loving games, and my initial leaning towards handheld systems and then straight into PC gaming gave me a lot more flexibility with the sorts of games I enjoyed and found entertaining, alongside all of the things that the internet showed me as I explored it.

Apologies for the off topic reply but:

Ironically, the movie Deep Impact has had a negligible effect on my life and that of most other humans and members of other species.

Learning to distinguished between what actually happened and the narratives my mind has about what happened.

Going through a breakup after a 7 year relationship in my early 30s which turned my life upside down (but ultimately led me to where I am now).

Right after I became homeless, went in and out of the hospital, went through a dark period as an active drug abuser and addict, walked out on an established, high paying profession and career, moved 1200 miles away from a city I loved, gave up on humanity and myself...etc.

But ultimately I see now that as hard as that period was, it got me to where I am today, and I would do it all over again to be where I am now: married to my best friend, father to the brightest, most joyful baby in the whole world, hitting my stride as a trusted advisor and recognized leader in an entirely different career field, living in a place I adore, in my own house that im fortunate enough to be able to afford all by myself, making art, music, and delicious food every single day, and most of all having faith in myself as an individual for the first time ever.

That experience, as dark as it was, taught me that not only can I survive anything that doesn't actually kill me physically, but I can thrive in any environment and circumstance if I so choose.

I just realized last night I slept soundly knowing my kids were old enough to handle any emergency and wake me from a deep sleep if they needed me. I feel I just experienced a real milestone in my life.

The year 2013. All of it.

The 2 suicidal periods in my life.