Maybe some people don't want to dismantle gender norms or the patriarchy, though. Perhaps instead they want to become someone who is oppressed by the patriarchy. Like, just speculating, maybe they want to be completely submissive and borderline airheaded, and be dressed in tighty, girly clothes, wearing lots of makeup and expensive hardos. Maybe they just want to have bleach-blonde hair and be completely and totally bimboified and have massive tits that can't stay in the apron I wear in the kitchen.