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[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

tryst d link will usually have trustworthy SWers to contact if you're really interested

Usually the ones that come off as spiritually into the whole thing will be your best bet for a first encounter

Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

Where I am, SWers are decriminalized, but buying their services isn't. So they don't need to be afraid of stings. Not sure if that affects what you're saying.

Anyway this is all hypothetical since I have a gf right now, but I've spent most of my adult life single and lonely and would have loved to be able to access SW services safely and legitimately during those times.

[–] Mercury 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

I might be stupid, but can someone explain why sex workers are decriminalized while buying their services isn't? I don't get the logic behind only punishing one party involved in the transaction. Note that I'm not against sex workers at all; I'm just confused about the logic.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

Because sex work being criminalised can prevent sex workers from feeling safe going to the police if they get assaulted in their like of work, and can also prevent trafficked people from coming forward.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

They're seen as "victims" by many people

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Because in a significant portion of cases, they are. They're owned by someone and didn't choose to sell themselves.

The fact that trafficking is such a meaningful portion of sex work is a big part of the reason it hasn't been legalized most places. I think it should be legalized and regulated to try to make it harder to have the workers be people who don't freely and fully consent, but the increase in demand if it's legal could make it worse in the short term at least.