Personally I don't engage with gender. Gender is only useful in changing peoples perceptions of yourself and I don't find people "lying" about my identity to my face to be an issue. I would identify as non binary or agender, but to do that would induce cognitive burden on others and make survay data more difficult, so I just don't. Life is too short to bother educating people you meet about how you understand your own gender.

Who am I, I'm fractal and my pronouns are whatever you are willing to calling me in this moment.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

cool beans you do you but some people find comfort in such labels and thats valid just as your viewpoint is valid

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Agreed, and I've seen cases where its helped people a lot, I'm just not one of those.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

I think I'm the same, which I guess is a privileged position to be in

[–] zazo 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

idk I feel its pretty useful in finding others like you? also how do you mean "make survey data more difficult"? like not inconveniencing others is commendable, but this sounds like internalized enby erasure?

also if you're not represented in survey data, it makes it that much easier for conservative proponents to point at gender surveys and say "well there's practically no one who doesn't fall in the binary buckets so there obviously must be something wrong with them and not the system"

as in, being yourself is the goal, but by being publicly open about it, you help others feel confident in pursuing what their authentic self is.

but again, you do you boo and I'm gonna keep being me by confusing all the guys in the gym lockers 🤪

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

idk I feel its pretty useful in finding others like you?

True but to me my gender is really not a factor in who I am, and while it might be a useful huistic for finding those who are similar to me, I can think of far better ones then that (e.g. hobbies, position on the asexuality spectrum)

Your statement about politicians is something I agree with, I'm more thinking about how identifying as an outlier is less useful then identifying as your birth gender when doing statistical analysis for polls with low sample size which I often participate in, especially when it makes no difference to me.

by being publicly open about it, you help others feel confident ...

That's a good point that I'll think on

but again, you do you boo and I'm gonna keep being me by confusing all the guys in the gym lockers 🤪

You too, I wish you luck with that.