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rule is it weird that i call things gay (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I grew up with an older brother who would call things gay in a derogatory way back when we were teenagers and i also picked up the habit even though I had never met a gay person and have never had (and still dont have) any hate for them or anyone regardless of sexual preference or gender identity

I still call things gay tho to this day, usually when something kinda annoying happens (e.g. that was kinda gay when the teacher made us do extra homework)

I'm sure there are people who might feel hurt about that so i filter myself when meeting new people and i generally use it less these days but it happens sometimes

Anyone else relate to this?

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I think it's the kind of thing you don't say in public. If you end up haveing to explain to someone that you're not homophobic, you've already fucked up.

I have a nasty habit of using "retarded" to describe things I find unfathomably stupid, but im very careful not to say it around anyone who might take me seriously.

Also, odd choice to post this question in 196. Besides not really being on theme, 196 is very trans positive, and left leaning. Don't be surprised if you get accosted a little bit.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 years ago

I also have that habit unfortunately

I thought it would be interesting to post this here because i wanted a perspective from people who are closer to or are part of a community that might be offended by this figure of speech

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

that’s a straight-up slur, so like.. stop doing it lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Out of curiosity, approximately how old are you?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

why do you ask?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

out of curiosity