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Is attention seeking behavior a personal failing or a societal I'll? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 9 months ago by KestrelAlex to c/asklemmy

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Some personality problems, like abandonment issues or low IQ, I think of as due to genetics or adverse childhood events not the fault of the person...other traits like being a person who litters or being greedy I think of as personal failings - my questions is where would you put attention seeking behaviors like being super entitled about your wedding or lying about traumatic events?

Are these caused by social problems, and if so what might they be? Or are they just people wanting attention because it feels good and they feel entitled to do whatever they have to to get it? I have cognitive dissonance on this and am curious to hear other people's take and why.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

I have trouble not seeing it as a spectrum due to all the people I've seen the label applied to. I have friends who have been labelled this way but I don't mind being there for them, even without expectations for the most part, especially if time is all they ask for. I mean, they are my friends.