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How would you put into words what gender means to you apart from societal gender roles and expectations? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 9 months ago by polysexualstick to c/asklemmy

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I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don't relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a "what role men have in society"-way.

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[–] polysexualstick 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

You said:

Sometimes the software does not reflect the hardware.

If gender is the software and the body is the hardware, this is kind of the "born in the wrong body"-stuff many people still use and it implies that there is a kind of hardware/software combination that fits together and a kind of combination that does not.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

I see where you're coming from, but there kinda is, as anyone who has experienced gender dysphoria can tell you.

HRT really does alter biological sex in a meaningful way, and I think a lot of people view medical transition as making the body fit the mind better.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Or I was implying what the prefix "trans" implies. You can't be "trans" if there's no "base". I wasn't saying any were "superior".