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[–] Clbull 16 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

My tendency to get walked all over. Recent events made me realise that I need to get a lot better at putting my foot down and telling people when there's a problem.

To cut a week-long story short, my NYE plans to do pub karaoke (which I planned nearly a month in advance) got hijacked when another friend group decided to make alternate plans to go to the club and make one of my close friends cancel on me. This led to me being pressured by another close friend into cutting my original plans two hours short so that my friend group could all be together at midnight. Of course, the other group making the alt plans all pulled out on the morning of the 31st Dec, leaving me and my three other friends with tickets to go to a nightclub that I didn't particularly want to go to.

I don't like clubbing. Nightclubs are overcrowded, loud to the point where you literally can't hear anybody and have to yell at the bartender to even order a drink, and they make me feel isolated. I also feel insecure about my physical attractiveness and jealous due to my inability to pull.

Botched NYE plans aside, 2023 definitely ended on a good note. I went from working in a crappy purchase ledger job, to facing layoffs, to escaping redundancy by finding a much better internal role that has honestly felt like a culture shock to me.

[–] victorz 3 points 6 months ago

Do you, king! You deserve it (I think)! ❤️💪