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[–] MacedWindow 102 points 9 months ago (5 children)

It can be easier to open up to UltimateTrollWarrior95 than to someone you know irl who has expsctations for how you should act and show your emotions. I once had a deep conversation about life with some rando on Town of Salem.

[–] [email protected] 141 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

I once played 3 hours of modern warfare 2 with the same group back in the day, just because some guy was pouring out his life story and how much life sucked for him around the time. He sent me a quick "thanks for letting me rant" message and I didn't hear from him again for years.

Then out of the blue I get a message that's basically a letter, and it's all about how life was difficult but some random person taking the time to listen without judgment made all the difference for his plans that night.

So I will never cut someone off to tell them I don't have time to listen to their problems, or pull out my phone to play a game, get annoyed with someone who won't stop talking, whatever... Sometimes all a person needs is someone to listen.

[–] SerotoninSwells 40 points 9 months ago

Thank you for being a kind person.

[–] Smoogs 7 points 9 months ago

Yup I remember going through a phase where it was like “I don’t have time for this person’s jabber” and it would annoy me that they wouldn’t get to the point.

Meanwhile I could find all the time in the day to do meaningless things to take up my time like playing a game. Which is totally self serving.

Then I realized this was a me problem. Not a them problem.

I really hate who I was back then. Now some of my relatives do jabber on but it’s totally ok. I make space for that now cuz jabbering is part of relationships and that’s how some people communicate and listening is a part of healthy interaction.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

that's beautiful

[–] [email protected] 45 points 9 months ago (2 children)

That's sort of the design of therapy: a neutral 3rd party who you can open up to without the usual conversational rules.

Except you probably don't call your therapist "UltimateTrollWarrior" (or maybe you do, I don't know your life).

[–] [email protected] 25 points 9 months ago (1 children)

A standard Troll Warrior simply would not suffice.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Please could you tell me how to contact your Ultimate Troll Warrior? Do I need to go on a quest?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

First you must locate one. Watch an entire season of Ultimate Troll Warrior (an American show imported from Japan). You will likely locate one. You may have to watch more than one season. Afterward, rely on technically-savvy stalkers to dox said Warrior. Contact them using that info, but be very careful not to come off as awkward. I recommend rehearsing in front of a mirror a few times.

[–] EatYouWell 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Except an internet stranger can't send you to the grippy socks hospital if you say the wrong thing.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

That's really not how therapy works.

[–] EatYouWell 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yes it is. Your therapist can absolutely put you in an emergency medical hold if you talk to them about thoughts of suicide. It's happened to thousands, if not millions of people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Only if they think you're an immediate threat to yourself or others.

I talked about suicide a lot in therapy.

[–] EatYouWell 1 points 9 months ago

Just because your therapist didn't 5150 you doesn't mean that it hasn't happened to others.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago

I've definitely spilled my guts to a number of internet strangers. It's nice to not have repercussions for my crazy.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago

Exactly why therapy is so useful.

I could never tell my family and friends part of me hated them because their love guilted me into not killing myself.

[–] UnfortunateShort 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Town of Salem is great, but at some point you realise screaming the loudest often wins lol

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends 4 points 9 months ago

Oh man! I tried that game and literally the first 15 minutes was some asshat talking over everyone and getting upset nobody was listening to him.

Uncertain if the game sucks or people suck. But I uninstalled so fast.