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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I am 35, live alone, have never been in a relationship, I have two friends that I actively maintain a friendship with.

One is my best friend, though I have no idea if I am their best friend.

I had a few more, but they all drifted away during four and a half year of working 12h alternating day/night 12h shifts.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bro the more you grow up, the less you'll have friends so dont stress , its just life.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I am not stressed, depressed, yes, but stressed? Not really.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

One is my best friend, though I have no idea if I am their best friend.

That's an awful feeling, and one that I'm quite familiar with. I'm pretty sure I'm not my best friend's best friend, and that sucks to think about. It can definitely make the relationship feel one-sided, and that's painful to consider. Try not to put too much stock into quantifying your friendships, as it's very easy for that thought to spiral out of control.