Hi friend. There's two ways to compare things together, using either a simile or metaphor. A simile uses "like" in the sentence to compare two things: hot dogs are like sandwichs. A metaphor is symbolic of something else, commonly also called hyperbolic communication: Elon needs to pull his head out of his ass.

What we have here is called a statement of fact. It is not a comparison to say that I've had both good days and bad days at my work. Do they have the same context (work)? Yes, but most people would compare their good days to other good days, and their bad days to other bad days. What I responded to is called a non-unique argument: i hope this is self explanatory. It is disengenuinous to say that jokes do not cause harm, when there are many types of jokes lead to additional harm through the normalization of stereotypes and rhetoric. In this case, the original commenter called out a joke that could potentially lead to harm

Hope this helped ❤️

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

In this case, the original commenter called out a joke that could potentially lead to harm

How is this going to lead to harm?

And if you're going to answer something like "oh they're going to think we're weird kiddie diddlers", the only person who would look at a meme of someone saying that they want to look like an 18-ish anime girl (especially considering that OP may be around the same age range, for all you know) and conclude that trans people are weird kiddie diddlers ..... are the people who already hate trans people and will come up with other reasons no matter what we do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My main argument is that "it's just a joke" is bad and shouldn't be used. It's an extremely common right wing talking point used to excuse harmful rhetoric. In the eyes of the original commenter, they are calling out harm. I don't necessarily agree with them. I'm just saying "it's just a joke" is bad.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When one says something, there's always some more information to be gleaned from context. Like yeah, I agree that some people use the phrase "it's just a joke" to be a dipshit, but I'd only bring it up if there was someone is being a dipshit.

By bringing it up in that context, it's giving an implication that you are agreeing with them, and it gives you the bonus of being able to wriggle out and go "oh actually I'm not on their side" once you get criticised.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

You can see my response with the original commenter to see that I didn't agree with them, posted before your first comment on this thread.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Rem is 17-19. I think 9 was a bit of an exaggeration. ...but yeah, I'm not sure what's up with the maid outfits. My honest thoughts, I think it stems from patriarchal ideas of what constitutes the core aspects of what it means to be a woman....an over sexualized cook and cleaner. A lot of trans women struggle with wanting any attention at all, even gross comments from misogynists because it validates their gender expression. It was covered in Pose (2018) pretty extensively for anyone wanting media that talks about the trans experience.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Yeah, I can see that for sure.

I don't like the mini version "she's one thousand years old in the lore, she just looks like a kid" tho. I know some of you that see art like this more regularily might not see this the same because of what you've self normalized, but that right there is a preteen with slightly exaggarated breasts, and adding boobs to a child doesn't make fetishization of the other features of them any more exusable. (I know you aren't saying it is btw, it's a general statement)