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I know, but they're my friends and I don't want them to think less of me since I'm asking for handouts.
If they're really your friends, they will be happy to help you.
I've experienced similar quandaries in my life before, but you have to ask yourself, "would I think any less of my friends/family members if they asked me for help?"
I'd maybe be a little hurt that my friend didn't think they could ask for some help.
Fair.
American individualism and 'bootstrapping' is one of the great American Lies. There is no shame in needing help because broken social systems failed you. Anyone who would think less of you for needing help with medical bills is someone you don't want in your life anyway. if we were truly a civilized nation you wouldn't be having this problem.
You could ask a friend to set one up for you, which could help lessen that stigma
That would just make me feel guilty for asking them! I'm a guilt-ridden mess!
It's a little late for that, but I do appreciate the advice because it really is worth going if I can get the money to do so. It will just be a very expensive trip because, even though I would be driving to New York, I will need a place to stay in NYC before they check me in, unless it will be outpatient, and after I'm checked out to recover. And then, of course, there will just be the cost of the testing there. So this is a lot of money we're talking about and I don't even know if I'll reach that amount. I don't even know what the goal should be.
But everyone seems to think that I should do it, so I guess I'm going to move forward on this. I want to make absolutely sure I could get into the New York hospital first though. I don't know this cousin all that well. It's conceivable that he might be full of shit. He sounds sincere, but I can't be sure.
Yes, I do know which hospital and it is connected with a university, but I still have to pay for it, which will still mean more medical debt. Good point about giving others the opportunity to do good.
It's definitely pride over stress, but I don't agree with you about it not being that big of a deal. I still look back on times I've asked for help and felt embarrassed by it even though I know I had no other option at the time. I guess I'm kind of messed up that way? So I'll feel guilty regardless, but it sounds like it's necessary.
Thank you, you've given me a lot to think about.
Great advice already here
Another thing is that you're not directly asking any particular person to donate. They have the option to just share the post with others (which is also great because there are more people out there who also want to donate/advocate on your behalf).
You can also include a message similar to what you have here :)
Hope things improve for you!
Very good advice! Thanks!
Consider going to see a clinical psychologist for therapy. I know you’re already swimming in debt but it sounds like you could benefit from this. Even if you had to wait until you return to work, it sounds like you’re going through it.
Thanks, I'm actually already seeing one for other reasons, so I have that covered.