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[–] DarkDiamondK 1 points 1 year ago

We play it by ear most times, we currently live with our parents still, I'm in college and she's a preschool teacher with the rest of her family (bit of explaining needed but eh, not bothering right now), so half our days are already taken, we have a day we almost guaranteed to see each other which is when we go to taekwondoe.

When we go to the others house, we kinda both have discomforts with our homes, so we try to balance out the times we spend there, and if we aren't feeling either place, my truck is where we go to chill out. Basically, I'm saying that if we find time, we hang out in whatever way we feel comfortable.

There are times she needs a break from all social interaction, and I'm willing to give her space and usually hang with her fam, which im good friends with anyway.

We have talked a good bit about this, and if we have problems, we try to find some kind of compromising, or at least an understanding. mindset is something I find dictates a lot of my mood. If I'm not in a state of understanding, I feel pissed. If I know how she feels, I find myself much more at ease, even if I don't like the situation.

Tldr, if we ain't feeling it and tell the other, we fine with giving space, and usually just preoccupy ourselves.