99.9% of all institutions in my life are at best feudal orders, run by aristocrats so far removed from my life that they wouldn’t even know how to survive without their armies of servants, nannies, and assistants. Democracy needs to extend beyond the state. Democracy must be present in every part of our society, or it will, as it has now, inevitably become nothing more than another oligarchy for and by the rich.
Recommended readings:
Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Freire.
Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon.
Bullshit Jobs by David Graeber.
Blackshirts and Reds by Michael Parenti.
Neocolonialism by Kwame Nkrumah.
Anarchism and other Essays by Emma Goldman.
Recommendations from the comments:
/u/BallShapedMan - The Dictator’s Handbook by by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita and Alastair Smith
Leaders and organizers and stuff will always be necessary even in an anarchist society, but those roles shouldn't be given the reverence and special treatment that they currently are. They're important roles, and should be respected and cooperated with just like any other role, but if they've proven themselves to be unworthy of that there should be democratic processes to replace them. People in leadership roles shouldn't be earning 10+x what everyone else is, and they shouldn't be able to hold onto power the way they currently are