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Blaming others for all your problems is a strong risk factor for doing violence to others. Grow up, get a fucking grip, and you'll be fine.
but incels.is = dhs
If they really thought I was dangerous they wouldn't have subjected me to sleep deprivation and various harassments...
I'll agree that state violence is bullshit. If they really wanted to help people, they could give them counselling, or maybe do something about our nightmarish society that atomises and impoverishes everyone - including men, women and others that fall outside that binary - and drives people to extremism out of desperation.
Unfortunately they are part of the problem. When all you have is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail. When all you have is state repression, you're going to treat every problem like political dissidence, and that's going to create more terrorism, not less.
This something you need to understand: the state and capital are our common enemy. They work together to keep us poor and separated. Women are not your enemy, they are suffering under this system too. Our actual enemies are the ones that want to push narratives that divide us along lines of gender, race, sexuality, ability, poverty, whatever they can find, because the more we blame one another, the less we pay attention to our oppressors, and the less we work together to fight against them.
To everyone else here attacking OP: saying "fuck you, you deserve repression" is not only false, it doesn't help. This language I've used here has been shown to be effective at combating bigotry, probably because it's true.
To OP, if you don't understand why you're being targeted, this article explains how terrorism is being connected with incels, and also why state responses to terrorism aren't actually all that helpful: https://theconversation.com/why-charging-incels-with-terrorism-may-make-matters-worse-139457
I've actually said not much that is directly misogynistic. But if I say "the sexual marketplace has taken a polygynous turn," that's deemed misogyny. Good article but that advice has went unheeded especially in the United States. Fact of the matter is that incels are POLITICALLY loathed and a politicized justice department has been set loose on them.
Coded language like that may not sound misogynist to you, but so many people use it in a misogynistic way that by saying it you are identifying yourself with misogyny whether you want to or not.
Also, sex isn't a marketplace. People are not products to be consumed, bought or sold.
There is a reason women reject a lot of men, and it's not because they're rolling in good dick. It's because they are afraid of being killed for a start.
I would recommend you spend more time figuring out where your real problems come from. They don't originate with half of all people, they originate in capitalism and patriarchy. That doesn't mean the problem is "men". Patriarchy is bad for men too.
lol just a description of the sexual landscape and it's polygynous turn is misogyny. and then you run to the government to ban spaces were those ideas are discussed. i bet you'd call him misogynist too
How am I dangerous? Is it dangerous to say "emergent polygyny is a problem and men have a coalitional interest in rolling it back"? "They" have a selfish interest in self-promotion and guaranteeing work for themselves which is why they're wolfishly turning on domestic citizens.
It's dangerous and deluded and makes you a danger to others, and also to yourself.
I know it's hard to deal with the self-hatred but turning it outwards will not help you. It will just dig that miserable hole deeper until you cannot climb out of it without doing serious harm. You're missing out on so much joy simply because you're too much of a coward to take a look at yourself.
How so? That just sounds like a whine. "I don't like it please daddy government ban it."
wtf are you talking about?