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Framing helps. I came up with this mantra when helping a friend with this issue:
It's a lesson, not an an albatross.
The only failure is failing to learn the lesson.
Your problems will follow you around in life. Address them as they come, because wherever you go, there you are, and all the lessons you need to learn still forcing their way into your reality.
When I need to make moves, whatnot, I do so after acquiring as much info as possible, be it asking people, or research, and then I commit. I have no qualms being wrong, usually that's the second best answer, because it means I can fix it directly. I don't take in pride from being right. Knowing and doing are two different things. I care about the outcome, not how I got there.
This allows me a grace towards my past self. I did the best with what I had, in the time frame I had to work with.
"...Would I with what I know now" is an question as old as humanity.