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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Why would anyone write "enby" when nb is shorter and whose meaning can much more easily be guessed at by people like me wondering what it means...?

[–] Ranolden 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

nb is already used to mean "non-black". The phonetic spelling "enby" is used to prevent any confusion

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

That makes sense and is the answer I sought :) thank you kind stranger

[–] HardlightCereal 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)
  • I have a swype keyboard that types enby faster than ~~M~~NB (edit: and with less typos)

  • Enby is a word instead of an initialism and flows more naturally in conversation

  • Enby is a term in use by the enby community, and using it shows I know what I'm talking about

  • Enby is a more "cuddly" word that makes us sound more relatable than an initialism

  • People in the enby community say enby more often in casual conversation, and I wished to convey a casual tone

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Don't forget "nb" is used to denote non-black, so out of respect and to avoid confusion, as well as for all the good reasons you've listed, "enby" is the preferred term.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Ok, I get what you mean. My counterpoints would be that nb in writing wouldn't "flow" differently because typing isn't the same as speaking. Out of context, a lot of insider terms get lost.

But you do you.

[–] HardlightCereal 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Do you have aphasia? Most people have a voice in their head that reads things to them. Helping the voice read my text with a better flow leads to less headaches for readers.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yo did i find a fellow aphasia homie

[–] HardlightCereal -1 points 2 years ago

No, I just have an ex with it

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's a weird question. No of course not, not even sure you understand what that means...

Again jargon is designed for the in group. When language is more accessible to all random Internet users... On the random Internet... Seems like a win to me.

[–] HardlightCereal 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

We're using enby in casual conversation because we don't want it to be jargon anymore. We want people to learn our words. You seem opposed to learning

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I'm not. I get it now. Someone else reminded me, "nb" already means non black which is a good point. I think clarity in language is good which is the only reason I spoke up but I get it now. Especially given this reply. Makes sense. No hard feelings