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What did "that one" person do to you which made you cut them out of your life? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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Or, alternatively, what did you do to another person which got you blacklisted from their life?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Some think it’s a radical approach, but I don’t see it that way. For all its capabilities, the Internet isn’t real and neither are the relationships we have with people on numerous sites that form its social aspect. Thus, there’s really little logic in giving people second chances, wasting time, attention and effort for them, trying to get through their attitudes and suffering to reach “real” them.

You're absolutely correct.

I think that saying that someone "failed at life" is a bit stupid because, they would do exactly what you recommend in your own comment; they would give friends & family a second chance:

Regardless of who I cut out though, there is ALWAYS room to come back if they change and grow up.

I’m still hoping my mom will before she passes… : /

Maybe you see things differently, but perhaps there is something more interesting and constructive you could say than: "You both failed at life."

Of course, arguing online is pretty fun... haha! :)

[–] jesterraiin 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Maybe you see things differently, but perhaps there is something more interesting and constructive you could say than: “You both failed at life.”

I certainly see things differently. I see a person who wastes time in the Internet instead of trying to fix what absolutely should be fixed - it's not that we have all the time in the world to make things right. Look at the part you quoted - "before she passes". The guy realizes that the mother may die, but still, talking crap on the Internet seems to him like the better choice to spend the precious time left on.

For me, selecting Internet upvotes, virtual handshakes and high fives by random, anonymous nobodes, over family is certainly within the definition of "failed at life", and I'd sooner bite my own tongue off rather than approach such a person with "interesting and constructive" words.

Of course, arguing online is pretty fun…

Definitely! 🧐

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Well said.