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So I've recently been trying to use the term "2SLGBTQQIA+" over "LGBTQ" as it seems more inclusive, and includes first nation peoples beliefs on sexuality and gender, as well as including and differentiating "queer" from "questioning". It's not perfect (still combines A for ally and A for Asexual) but I think ally could just be included in the "+" portion. Regardless, It seems that people unfamiliar with this term just think I'm being a smart ass or a bigot. When truly I want to know what the limits of what "the community" feel is appropriate. Thank you to anyone who can shed some light on this for me.

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[–] fubo 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

One thing that language lets you do is decide whom you want to sound like.

If you use the same terms that someone else does, for the same meanings, you are at some level expressing alliance with them.

Are other people you care about using these terms?

[–] Macropolis 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you fubo. I ask people I know who represent those letters, and my significant other said they are apart of the "alphabet soup group" as someone who is non-binary. which made me laugh. But I realize more and more that it's more a political thing I see around then something that ever really comes up much in conversation. People in real life can just say if they are trangender or gay.

[–] fubo 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If you use a word and people think you're making fun of them, they're going to respond negatively. Not because of what the word "means" but because of how it's used.

If you use a word and your audience think it sounds like the kind of thing that people who hate them say, they're going to respond negatively. Not because of what the word "means" but because of who you sound like when you use it.

Language does lots of things. It doesn't just say what you mean. It also says who you think you are, whom you've been listening to, how you understand your audience, etc.