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You and an old friend catch up at a restaurant. When the bill comes, how do you make sure the poor waiter takes your card? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by Redditgee to c/asklemmy

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I usually whisper, "I'll flip every table in this joint if you don't take my card, including the one with that child at it", and while it has a 100% success rate, I can't help but feel terrible about it, later. What are some alternatives?

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[–] Chickenstalker 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Whomever invited the other person, have the "right" to pay. If you both just bumped into each other, then the "home" side pays. If both persons are locals, then the socially "senior" pays. If both are of the same social rank, then the one who didn't pay the last time should pay. If all else fails, split it 50/50.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I had a weird dynamic recently that hit on almost all of these in conflicting ways.

I’m a manager at work and one of my direct reports was visiting my city on vacation. She invited me to breakfast with her and her husband. So: she invited, I’m local, she’s ~25 years older, but I’m the manager. Plus she had two guests, and it was just me.

I was ready to pay but when the check came her husband jumped on it so fast I didn’t even have a chance to push back. But then I gave her a $450 standing desk for free, so I guess she still got the good end of the deal!

[–] Solo 2 points 1 year ago

Such odd rules for paying. I'd rather just talk to the person I'm dining with and see what they want to do. I prefer to just pay for what I ordered in all scenarios but if they insist after I say no once then I'll let them pay.