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Bro it's a simple question. I hope the Fediverse can grow and asking this question as I know some may get upset / confused with no back button on screen.
It was a joke.
Cool I just don't always understand jokes due to my autism. Sorry I took it as you telling me to fuck off back to centralized social media.
Here's a little something I learned many decades ago:
When you read something someone has written, always remember that you didn't hear the person's voice what they wrote, and you didn't see their body language. So you're missing 67% of the information that person meant to convey.
Your brain naturally makes up the missing information: it might assign a male or female voice to the author of the text, and it might imagine them smiling or being angry, or in some other state of mind if the text can have several meaning, like in the case of irony of sarcasm (that isn't explicitely marked as such with "/s").
My advice is this: when you think someone is insulting you, re-read the sentence, but imagining the person smiling or laughing while writing it instead: does it work too? Does the sentence work better with the author smiling or being angry in your mind's eye?
This has helped me immensely online. It might help you too.
I have more than just autism, I have morbid anxiety. Due to both of these I can't really imagine body language and things, sure I've got better with it in person but most of the time if they are telling me to go somewhere then it's most likely as they fucking hate my or don't understand that I won't get they are joking.
Well then err on whatever you read being written in a positive tone if the intent is ambiguous. If you're wrong, the worst thing that can happen to you is that you look overly optimistic. But at least you won't raise your blood pressure feeling aggression that may not be there.
I mean well incidentally. I don't want to sound patronizing.
You don't need to apologise.
Given that you thought they were trying to provoke you, your response was really relaxed and from it you got the clarity you needed.
Navigating the world of neurotypicals is hard but I think you're doing fine.
Not everyone answers simple questions