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I am of the age to have kids, some of my friends have them, but I have mixed feelings about it, just wondering about other people's experiences.

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 day ago (2 children)

No and no. I don't think I'd want to subject my kids to where the world is headed. Also, too much of a long-term commitment that would significantly reduce my opportunities to do what I want, travel etc.

[–] ramenshaman 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Those are both among the main arguments I have against having any.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago

As to the latter, I'm roughly satisfied in the department of things that kids would preclude.

As to the former, that's part of the reason I want kids. I care about the people who will live in the future. I want a better life for them.

I can do what I can to improve the world in my life, but someone needs to carry the torch. Kids are an opportunity to teach some subset of the future population my values. I want to learn from my parents' mistakes and my own life to make better kids that become better parents, who make better kids who become better parents, so on and so forth ad infinitum.

The intro to Idiocracy can be generalized: the world will be populated by the children of those who have children. If only the worst people reproduce, the future will be worse. Unless the ethical people reproduce and pass on their values, those values will die out. If we want the future to be better, we have to have kids, teach them to be better, and teach them to teach their kids to be better.