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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've got a nonbinary friend who presents somewhat feminine, and they always say that anyone who finds them attractive is gay by default. So I guess what I'm saying is I'm not totally straight

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wouldn't finding an nb person attractive be hetero attraction? Since they're of a different gender?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess it depends how you define it, i feel like most people define hetero as being exclusively attracted to people of the opposite sex than you

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They're using the (Greek-derived) scientific definition of "hetero" (i.e. different) vs "homo" (i.e. same). By those definitions, any cisgender + non-binary pairing would technically be heterosexual.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah I define myself as heterosexual cos I'm not attracted to people of the same gender as me. I'm not non-binary so being attracted to/sleeping with an enby person is not gay, at least according to how I define my own sexuality.