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[โ€“] [email protected] 113 points 1 month ago (17 children)

There's a lot of human behavior I don't understand. Used to make me feel like an alien as a kid.

Like the super unhealthy parasocial relationships people think they have with famous people, and more appalling is the way the media feeds right into it. People acting like it's normal to obsess over details about celebrities personal lives is very weird to me.

I don't understand cheating... just break up and then you can fuck who you want. Why does deceiving someone and breaking their trust have to be a part of it? Why is that necessary?

I don't understand how you can be the richest elongated muskrat in the world, so rich you just doubled your wealth, and not do anything to help people who need it. I don't know how he can live with himself. And what I really don't get is that he clearly wants the world to see him as some sort of important amazing brilliant person. So why not do the thing. DO THE THING AND HELP YOU SELFISH FUCK

Don't even get me started with bigotry. It just does not make sense. Why does someone's skin pigment effect people so drastically? Why does the gender or sexual orientation of strangers matter? People need to focus on themselves and mind their business. If someone would like to make minding your business the new fad of 2025 I'm here for it.

[โ€“] littlewonder 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I haven't ever cheated but I'm an armchair human development nerd and I'd assume that there are some things at play like:

  • Social narratives that make it seem like there's only one true love out there for you (assuming the cheating here is only physical and not love).
  • There can be shame in divorce or breaking up.
  • There's the sunk cost fallacy of staying with someone because you've put so many years into the relationship.
  • If there are kids, people can believe (whether it's true or not) that it's harmful to the kids to separate
  • People compartmentalize and can develop really weird cognitive dissonance where they build two realities and can operate as if the two have nothing to do with each other. It's hard to explain.
  • All the other collateral with separating, like potentially moving, new financials and potential child support/alimony, custody challenges, health insurance through marriage, job shifts, etc. etc.

Before you angrily hit reply, dear reader, I'm not defending or condoning cheating. I'm just trying to answer the sociological question of why it's a behavior that happens enough that we're talking about it in this thread.

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