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One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don't know him super well yet, though. He's a big part of this new friend group and I don't know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he's a cop.

I don't want to look past the fact he's a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can't talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago (14 children)

This is one of many problems with “ACAB” because not every cop is one way or the other.

Reality is that a functioning society needs police officers. It sounds like you hit it off with this person and they have some good qualities that you like.

How do you expect the police to change if we don’t get involved? Getting rid of the police entirely is not a solution. But getting in and making changes from the inside is a valid way to make things better.

Why are you wanting to create an echo chamber for yourself? Why don’t you expose yourself to others and other ideas that are different than yours? What’s the harm there? Are you scared you won’t be able to change his mind or that his ideas might make some sense to you?

[–] hoshikarakitaridia 6 points 2 weeks ago

This.

I'm friends with a former Republican social media person. I don't share his views and he's knows that, but I can appreciate his views so that I can learn.

Sometimes the most uncomfortable perspective can help you grasp some really complicated things.

And also, you might not even know what their views on the police are.

Just get to know them. Don't adapt their views if you don't subscribe to them, but listen to them and maybe you can take away some stuff here and there.

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