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Does anybody else always find themselves sending large enthusiastic texts to people but don't usually receive such texts? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 weeks ago by zerozaku to c/asklemmy

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Large enthusiastic texts as in large texts about topics, you have common with the other person and enthusiastic about.

I am a person who prefers texts over calls. Maybe that might be the reason, the people I have in my circles are more into calls than texts.

But this happened with my online friends as well whose only mode of communication is via texts.

I used to have a friend who would do so but with the topics only he was interested in lol but I used to kinda act like I'm listening to him by asking small questions . He did try to complement my listening skills once. We used to chat for hours together. Sadly life moved on and he branched away from my friend circle (which is kinda non-existent rn because life ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯).

Or am I just too boring or loud? Is this a bad habit? Sometimes I can't stop making walls of texts. (Oops here I go again)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

So, this is definitely not a diagnosis, as I obviously don't know more about you than what's in this post. But your post sounds quite a bit like the stereotypical autistic experience:

Being really enthusiastic about specific topics
Bonding with other folks on the autistic spectrum (that friend also very superficially sounds like they might be there)
Decidedly preferring texts over calls
Walls of text
Feeling like you don't fit in with the rest of society

Now comes the usual disclaimer: Autism is a spectrum. You might just have these few autistic traits as part of your personality and nothing else to do with it. But yeah, it could also be that you've got more such traits and that you'll find it easier to bond with other autistic folks. You can check out some of the autism communities here on Lemmy to try to gauge, if your experience matches that of others in more ways. There's also some questionnaires online, where you can get a rough score, which tells you the likelyhood of autism. For a real diagnosis, you'd need to talk to some doctors, though...