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Does anybody else always find themselves sending large enthusiastic texts to people but don't usually receive such texts? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 weeks ago by zerozaku to c/asklemmy

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Large enthusiastic texts as in large texts about topics, you have common with the other person and enthusiastic about.

I am a person who prefers texts over calls. Maybe that might be the reason, the people I have in my circles are more into calls than texts.

But this happened with my online friends as well whose only mode of communication is via texts.

I used to have a friend who would do so but with the topics only he was interested in lol but I used to kinda act like I'm listening to him by asking small questions . He did try to complement my listening skills once. We used to chat for hours together. Sadly life moved on and he branched away from my friend circle (which is kinda non-existent rn because life ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯).

Or am I just too boring or loud? Is this a bad habit? Sometimes I can't stop making walls of texts. (Oops here I go again)

Side note: Subscribe to c[email protected] and help it grow. I wanted to make a post there but it was really dead. (It doesn't have to be a lemmy.world instance.)

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Guess it’s about which generation you are from. Old generation who grew with PCs tend to be on keyboards, while gen z tend to be on phones.

The thing is I’m kinda stuck in between. Genz doesn’t have attention span to read texts while old gens hate to use mobile phones. I am someone who is tech savy from genz and I love using tech from both generations. I need to find my people.

I always have a hard time understanding that 'gen' thing. I mean, for me people are people. They're not clones of one another that are expected to do/want/wear/like/dislike the same things because they were born around the same year.

But maybe you're 100% right, that's a generational thing, well that would be so for everybody else but yourself since you somehow managed to escape that strict categorisation of behaviours and preferences by sitting between two gens. Suppose your assumption is correct, wouldn't it still be much simpler to experiment writing shorter texts or write them on another medium that would be more suited to long form, to say hoping to find more 'exceptions to the rule', aka more people like yourself, to start having interesting discussions?

Just sayin' ;)

[–] zerozaku 1 points 2 weeks ago

Gen thing is pretty simple. People from that particular gen get used to doing things in a way that is famous in their gen. They see what the other people are doing in their age and copy them to feel more inclusive.

PCs were famous and trendy in previous generation. Now it's mobile phones. This is why we see gen z not being able to operate PC like their phones and previous gen not being able to do the vice versa. Pretty simple concept imo.

Coming to second part of your message, yes I'm trying to be in on these long form media and this is why I started to post on Lemmy lot recently. But also I have feeling there are people like me who could match my enthusiasm who are worth finding and for the rest of the people I'll try to send smaller texts as many have advised here 👍