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How do lonely people find friends/ how did you find friends? (ani.social)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Hobbies were always my go to in the past, but honestly I didn't have a ton of luck with that. I've made most of my new friends this past year in one of three ways:

Starting a group for people like me. I run a small but global chat group for people to find friends, I won't be linking it for privacy and safety reasons even in DMs, sorry.
Activism. Activists are the nicest people on the planet and just being in their presence generates friends. I'm on my way home from a huge protest, and I basically just walked around and sat in tents and people just befriended me without me prompting at all. The exposure at events like this has boosted my confidence a huge amount and now I'm one of those people who actively befriends others too.
Volunteering. Same thing as activism tbh, you build a sense of camaraderie very easily when you're working towards a common goal. I cooked about ~1000 meals at that protest as a volunteer cook and made about 20 friends in the first hour, it's nuts.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

I hate how people say volunteer or activism all the time as a suggestion, many of us don't care about any type of cause or crusade and faking interest just to get friends or laid is even worse