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Even if it wasn't so much "manipulative".

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[–] macrocarpa 55 points 3 days ago (8 children)

Not the most manipulative but

Keep a log of the birthdays, hobbies and names of spouses and children of colleagues, managers, team members and customers.

I learnt this from a guy who did executive search. People remember you, when you remember what is important to them.

When I've lead teams it's one of the first things I find out - note down when someone says "yeah Gary that's my hubby, he's super into gaming"

  • Gary (husband.)
  • likes gaming

When you're a manager, your teams families, partners and friends know your name. Reciprocating that - learning who is important to them - is really important.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Has this ever backfired on you? While your motive is wholesome, I could see the practice itself seeming creepy. Like keeping notes of someone else's life.

[–] macrocarpa 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yep. There's people that want to keep distance at work and don't appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.

[–] partial_accumen 17 points 3 days ago

Yep. There’s people that want to keep distance at work and don’t appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.

  • Jane (wife.)
  • likes the pool cleaner boy and has been sleeping with him behind her husband's back for 8 months.

Some people just don't like to have their hobbies shared.

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