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Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

I believe it's similar to road rage. You are very restricted in your way of communicating and cannot read the other's emotions at all. That means you have to interpret a lot more and that is done in your own state of mind, meaning you can easily take offence where non was meant and the other has no chance to de-escalate as they would in face-to-face communication.

Ignoring trolls and actual assholes, that kind of misinterpretation happens so easily, I've often seen it among friends (via chat) and my own mother raged about an email I sent her (which was then de-escalated by a single sentence in a phone call). That's also the reason, sarcasm works so poorly online.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Oh. That comparison is a really good one. Never though of it that way.