Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was EDIT this link is an OLD POST that contains my thesis on the state of lemmy and is not the context of the much more recent comment in the screenshot. sorry for any confusion caused by this juxtaposition, my main goal with having this linked is to expose how nothing has improved
It really doesn't, since the comment you quoted is basically saying that women making decisions over their own bodies is the cause of misogyny, which is the most generic MRA victim blaming bullshit which doesn't deserve to be legitimised by being seriously addressed, nor defended by people pretending to have good faith.
the comment isn’t saying women can’t make their own decisions… the comment is saying that the guy wants to have sex, and if he can’t then they’re incompatible partners right now… women are allowed to make choices about their bodies, and men are allowed to make choices about activities they’d like to have in their lives
the reply comment implies that he only thinks about using a woman for sex, which is not what he’s saying at all
another example would be if 1 person wanted to live in the city and the other wanted to live in a farm: likely a deal-breaker, just like not having sex
this is a horrible read. it's about how men not getting incentive to do the right thing would result in e.g. lawmakers being pressured to repress women. it's fine if they only 4b those who don't respect them or abortion
My issue with 4b is we know it doesn't work.
What's the one thing that we know helps people stop being bigoted? Exposure to the people they're bigoted against. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2705986/
The 4b movement is like saying "the solution to racism is segregation"
On an interpersonal level, women absolutely should be wary of every man they come across, but that doesn't mean a more extreme version of that works as a cultural movement.