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i think this is a misunderstanding of my point. I'm not saying that men are fucking stupid and retarded, i'm saying that society has let men slip through it's fingers into a pit of despair, with little to help them crawl out of it. Women are socially better equipped to deal with this for various different reasons, and socially they're doing pretty good right now because of their workforce and education push happening right now, which is a good thing, presumably they will have a similar problem in the future, however i don't think it's going to be as significant as they all have really solid support structures, men often have none. Socially it's ok for women to engage in them and to partake in them, socially for men, it's not nearly as acceptable.
As a collective society, fathers, mothers, family relatives, we all need to work and focus on raising better men going forward who can be more functional in society, as well as giving them a clear place to exist, because right now, there isn't really a place for them to exist.
this is definitely a problem, and this is why i'm leaving these comments, people focus too much on this aspect of the issue, rather than the aspect we should be collectively focusing on, including you at the moment.
this is a different story entirely, and im not sure how much of this is a problem, though it's probably not the optimal way of going about it either so.
i think it's more along the lines that men are essentially an english speaker who up and moved to a place with a completely different culture and a completely different language, they just can't really do much in that environment because the expectations they have don't exist in the real world. There's a reason we see male partners break up with females who begin making more than them, theres a reason they have higher suicide rates, there's a reason men are generally less sociable than women. There's a reason behind all of this, and it isn't some failure of the previous social system, it's a failure of the previous system, and the current one. The worst aspects of both systems are rearing the ugly sides of their faces simultaneously right now, and it's compounding somewhat excessively here.
exactly, and the reason why they end up in there, is because it gives them some sense of purpose, and some sort of drive, redefining social norms back to how they were in the 50s makes everything they do more logical in their framework. We need the modern version of this that isn't predicated on women having no rights, and men having literally only the protection of women to deal with. (i didn't come up with the name btw, it's what online peeps refer to it as)
my argument is that we aren't raising them correctly, we're not raising them with the proper expectations or any at all, and this has a clear and defined impact on the life of men going forward, it's not hard to demonstrate it. It's not hard to redefine the role of a person in society, we just need to do it from a young age. The broader philosophical and child rearing debate here is how specifically to do that, but we all have people that we all love for being genuinely good humans, jimmy carter, mr rogers, etc. People like that are of a dying breed i worry. Starting there would at least give us something to work with on the short span of it.