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submitted 2 months ago by PugJesus to c/[email protected]

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[–] ChonkyOwlbear 33 points 2 months ago (24 children)

It could just as easily be framed that women are raised and socialized to have unrealistic expectations for a partner.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I remember someone writing that the bar for men to be "good men" is in hell. That always stuck with me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

The bar to be a good partner is different from the bar to be a good person/man though.

I dislike the conflation between the two because it implies being unable to have a partner implies being a bad person.

Take a hypothetical man with severe mental impairments necessitating 24/7 care: Is it impossible for him to be a good man? Yes, that is a more extreme example but it just goes to show that there is a difference between the two. Being a good partner requires different skills than "just" being a good man.

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