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Accepting that one is queer often includes a significant deal of shedding at least some of the internalized constraining expectations of society in order to accept yourself, so queer folk have a 'cleaner' slate to resocialize themselves on, if you will.

As a general rule, obviously none of this is universal, and there are plenty of poorly socialized toxic queer folk out there. But I'm inclined to agree that they're less likely to be toxic, in my experience as well.

As a gay guy, I call bullshit on that, unless you're bi and have first-hand experience.

There's def something to be said by just how alien the cishet dynamic is to me for example.

I have no concerns regarding children, no concerns regarding gender or power, I'm in a transbian relationship with another trans woman, we don't have to work very hard to be equal in terms of societal sex dynamics.

It's not all like we're super enlightened Buddhist monks or something, we fight and get pissed and get upset, but man, that kind of discomfort and disconnect and almost a quiet rage I feel that cishet men and women have towards each other because of the broader state of societal relations between the groups just isn't something that plays into it for me.

I suppose while being queer is generally more a curse practically in most of the world, this sort of freedom is some reward for surviving through it. I'm grateful to my past self for powering through all the threats of violence and suffering, through being disowned and everything and tell her that living will be worth it one day, and that everything will be alright.