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Apologizing for something you already knew was wrong seems pointless. (discuss.online)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/unpopularopinion

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I’m pretty sure I’m in the small minority here but I personally feel like apologies are a better fit for accidents and miscommunications. If you steal from someone, cheat on someone, intentionally harm someone, etc. saying sorry doesn’t do much for me because if you were sorry, you wouldn’t have done it in the first place. I appreciate the apology, but that doesn’t move me. Trust is always regained through actions, not words. Perhaps you could argue that a person has a “change of heart.” Maybe that might make the apology more valid. But idk

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[–] Lost_My_Mind 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I think what's worse is FORCED appologies. You already know if it's forced, it's just pointless words. They don't mean it.

I'd respect it more if they doubled down, and gave the double middle finger. Like going on Lemmy and telling people that without drastic culture changing shifts in the overall presentation of the OS, linux will NEVER be a recognizable OS to the general public. 4% userbase is a pathetic number that represents an all time high, and is just as easily considered a rounding error for the REAL operating systems!

doubles down with a double middle finger

Oh! Oh! You want me to appologize!

moons the crowd

BASK IN MY GREATNESS!!!

[–] TootSweet 1 points 2 months ago

Damn. Before you mooned me, I was grabbing my torch and pitchfork, but now I have only respect. Well done, Lost_My_Mind. Well done.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I am in this situation with a family member. I asked for an apology for their behavior, and I got the flippant "I'm sorry" and "can we move on." The reality is I'm.. unable to move on until the situation is settled. "I require an apology for your behavior, both in words showing you understand why this is a problem, and the appropriate change of action."

We are still trying to sort this out. It may not go well. WHEEEEEEEE