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What are some double standards in society for men ? (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I don't know any specific cases, but one thing I've heard that police (at least in Brazil) will just laugh at and ignore, is when a man is the victim of an abusive partner.

Of course, it's nowhere as common as men being the violent/abusive partner, but it happens, yet "society" will effectively say "grow a pair"

[–] Makhno 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Of course, it's nowhere as common as men being the violent/abusive partner, but it happens, yet "society" will effectively say "grow a pair"

It's funny how when talking about male victimization, people always feel the need to throw in a disclaimer that men are still "worse"

[–] lennybird -2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Which, I mean, they are:

Victim/Perpetrator adisaggregation reveals a large disparity in the shares of male and female victims of homicide committed by intimate partners or other family members: 36% male versus 64% female victims. Women also bear the greatest burden in terms of intimate partner violence.

— Source: United Nations Global Study on Homicide: Gender-related killing of women and girls

Domestic violence is a serious and challenging public health problem. Approximately 1 in 3 women and 1 in 10 men 18 years of age or older experience domestic violence. Annually, domestic violence is responsible for over 1500 deaths in the United States

According to the CDC, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience physical violence by their intimate partner at some point during their lifetimes. About 1 in 3 women and nearly 1 in 6 men experience some form of sexual violence during their lifetimes. Intimate partner violence, sexual violence, and stalking are high, with intimate partner violence occurring in over 10 million people each year.

One in 6 women and 1 in 19 men have experienced stalking during their lifetimes. The majority are stalked by someone they know. An intimate partner stalks about 6 in 10 female victims and 4 in 10 male victims.

At least 5 million acts of domestic violence occur annually to women aged 18 years and older, with over 3 million involving men. While most events are minor, for example grabbing, shoving, pushing, slapping, and hitting, serious and sometimes fatal injuries do occur. Approximately 1.5 million intimate partner female rapes and physical assaults are perpetrated annually, and approximately 800,000 male assaults occur. About 1 in 5 women have experienced completed or attempted rape at some point in their lives. About 1% to 2% of men have experienced completed or attempted rape.

— https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK499891/

That's not to downplay male victimization incidents, but let's also not pretend the scale is the same.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Most studies show domestic abuse is almost always close 50/50 in perpetrators.

[–] FarraigePlaisteach 6 points 2 months ago

I doubt that very much, especially in relation to physical abuse and coercive control.

[–] lennybird 3 points 2 months ago

Can you show me some of these studies?