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True, in reality everyone in the ghoul. Dating does become harder the older you get. When you're 18 and you date an 18 year old, both have very little life and dating experience. You basically mix water with water. When you're 35, you're vinegar and even if you like your date, she might be oil and you just don't mix. You have to compromise, which only gets harder and harder.
It's not harder, objectively.
It's just that people's expectations aren't realistic. And nobody is more bitter than average folks who think they are the top 1% of the dating pool, which is what the average person thinks. So many people in the dating pool make like 50k/yr and think you should be a millionaire to date them.
I've met so many women who are complete average looking, average income, etc. who think they DESERVE Don Draper and anything less is 'below them'. They'd rather be alone with their fantasy TV boyfriend then be in a real relationship with a person who is their equal with whom they can build a good life.
I'm a medium successful dude, and when I go out dating all I seem to encounter women who are worse than me in pretty much every metric who dunk on me for not being the top 1% man of their dreams. Like I can run a half marathon, no problem, but these ladies who can't even run a mile will dunk on me for not being in the Olympics. I have more wealth than 80% of other americans, and to most women I meet, I am 'poor'.
and if you go check out 'female dating advice' on social media... 99% of it reflects this crazy unrealistic attitude and it's SUPER popular.
Social media has destroyed dating for both sexes.
some of it is good. some social media has great/good advice... but that social media isn't popular.
because 99% of it is 'fix your own shit and stop expecting someone else to fix it for you'
The attitude of assuming all women you meet are inferior to you (and they're the ones who have too-high standards?) can also make your dating life miserable, just saying
I'm not assuming anything. I'm reporting how people behave. If I meet someone who is a middle class job and they are telling me I'm a 'POS loser' for not driving car that is worth more than their annual salary, the issue isn't me. I think my Subaru is pretty dope.
Just go on any dating tiktok or dating advice community. You will find tons and tons of people with these attitudes.
Date leftists? Like, actual leftists. I know, it's a small pool in America, but you'd be surprised what's out there if you join the right community.
You're going after people who buy into the capitalist heirarchy and being surprised it's all just shallow self-delusions. Idk, just seems self defeating.
A good chunk of the people I'm talking about identify as leftists.
Your political ideals also have nothing to do with your personal expectations and habits in relationships. Plenty of 'leftist' women I have met 100% expect traditional gender roles and aspire to be SAHM. And a lot of leftists I knew in my 20s are now hardcore right wingers now.
Hell half my liberal/leftie graduate school cohort is now support Trump/Republicans.
I think your definition of leftist and mine are quite different.
sorry, is there a test i can perform on people to know if they are 'true leftist'?
if not, you should create a 'leftist testing kit' like they have for covid so i can bring it on dates and swab them and know in 15 minutes if they are a leftist or not!
As a general rule, not believing in capitalism and income based heirarchy is a good start.
ok, so no leftists exist. got it. thanks for clarifying.
I think I've found another of your dating problems, you're not very good at listening and combine that with sarcasm as a deflection tactic.
correct. i don't tolerate delusional people who think they have some special super secret knowledge and are superior to other people based upon it.
Well, some people might see things different than you do, and it's always possible to learn something new by listening to them. But you seem to think you've got it all figured out and you have nothing to learn from others. So yeah, a part of your dating problems might come from that.
That being said, it's crazy that some people give so much importance to money in looking for a romantic partner. I mean, past 30 you should be somehow financially independent... going on a date with the expectation of meeting someone who could raise your standard of living sounds like something from the 19th century.
I agree. To me, money only matters as far as knowing that they can also independently afford their lifestyle. I don't need a leech in my life, but I also don't need someone to pay my bills or add to my financial future. If you have your life together enough to hold down a job that covers your expenditures, then you have moved into the dateable category, assuming there aren't other glaring red flags.
Amazing that you turned this into a left/right argument. Are you the CIA?
Bad analogy. Vinegar and oil make a tasty vinaigrette but I get your point.
Especially if you can open that up to a little basil now and then
So threesome...
With a guy named Herb
I know a 30yo woman that I am interested in, and is 40mins away. The problem is she is not interested. She likes guys that are 20yo and live long distance(other countries), and they all end disastrously. I am just her 34yo friend.