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Schools shouldn't be treated as these magical places where you're put in at some age and over a decade later you emerge a complete human being. You have parents and you spend more time at home than at school for a reason: you're supposed to learn from your parents.

A school can potentially give you a degree of financial literacy instruction. Your parents should be the ones paying your allowance money and driving you to the bank to get your first checking account. A school can teach you how to cook something. Your parents should be the ones eating your food and helping you cook it better. A school can show you some level of DIY. Your parents should directly benefit from teaching you how to fix the sink when it gets clogged. A school can tell you what kinds of careers exist. Your parents should love you enough to tell you that either your career ambitions or your financial expectations need to change. A school can tell you how to build a resume. Your parents should be the ones driving you to your job interview and to your job until you buy your first car. A school can give you a failing grade when you do poorly on a test. Your parents should be able to make you face the real, in-the-moment consequences of doing something wrong.

Expecting a school, public or private, to teach you everything you need to know is a grave mistake. You need people in your corner who are taking an active part in raising you all the way to adulthood and beyond. If you have kids yourself, that goes for them as well. If you aren't there for your children, to teach them the things that schools don't teach because they can't mass produce the lessons to nearly the same quality that you can give them, they'll blame you and the school for having failed them. And they'd be right to lay the blame at your feet.

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[–] IAmNotACat 14 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Some of your examples are just senseless. People don’t have DIY skills because of the increasing specialisation of our society. We’re not at home learning how to fix things, because we’re in school learning how to do other things instead.

This has been the case for so long in some places that a lot of peoples parents don’t have those skills to pass on in the first place.

[–] Raffster 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Isn't that quite a bit degenerative? I think everyone should have at least some basic skills.

[–] IAmNotACat 4 points 3 months ago

It is degenerative, which is the point of the argument.

We fostered a society where both parents work, often far away from where they live. The time normally and naturally allotted to educating your own children has been steadily shrinking to make room for an education that normally lasts until adulthood. The expectation now being that your children will not pick up the family trade.

For some people, this trade off has been degenerative in some aspects, and that’s why they complain ‘school never taught me x’.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Boy, if only we had access to a globe-spanning network of computers that could give us access to information on how to perform basic repairs and small construction projects. If we had that we'd be able to teach ourselves the skills necessary to save hundreds or even thousands of dollars a year by not calling a professional to do simple work.

Too bad such an information network is just a fantasy and everyone is completely helpless. We had better resign ourselves to not even try to solve our own problems.

[–] PriorityMotif 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

You actually are better off specializing in something to make more money than you are to diy everything. You're better off paying people to do things for you so that you can enjoy your free time. Source: have spent the past few weekends fixing my god-damned car due to several problems cropping up at once and having to redo several things due to shitty parts and/or finding more problems once I got everything apart. In fact I should have just gotten rid of the car before I ever started, unfortunately, I don't have a crystal ball.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Learning how to do simple stuff is worthwhile just so you don't have to deal with the risk of having an incompetent/careless person working on your stuff. The amount of time I've wasted going back and fixing shitty workmanship from people my parents hired to work on their (practically brand new) house is ridiculous and I'm not even a professional. After dealing with all that shit I don't trust tradespeople at all. I'm sure there's good ones but if you're just pulling names out of the phone book there's a decent chance you'll get fucked in my experience.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I didn't say "do everything" now did I?

[–] PriorityMotif 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If I had the money I would hire a landscaper to mow my lawn and a cleaner to come clean my house and have laundry service done for me, and a good accountant who could somehow get all of those expenses written off.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Ok, but because you can't afford to do that, you cannot specialize completely.