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[–] [email protected] 78 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I'm so oblivious that I wouldn't even get to the step of overanalyzing the lyrics. I would have just thought "Oh they think I'd like this song? Let's check it out," and that's it.

I'm so oblivious that multiple times my partner tried to initiate sex by trying to make out and get handsy with me and I completely missed it. If it's not explicit "You. Me. Bed. Now," level direct then like 95% of the time I miss it.

One day my partner got so frustrated with my obliviousness that she asked me flat out if I was asexual or something. I had no idea what that was but turns out yes, yes I am.

Funniest thing to me though. When it's directed at me, then I'm totally oblivious. But if my partner sees an attractive woman out and about and starts visibly thirsting even a little I can tell immediately.

[–] 0laura 39 points 4 months ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Is it really obliviousness if it's asexuality?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

I mean asexual doesn't necessarily imply aromantic and vice versa. I don't really think you need your own desire to have sex with someone to be able to tell they're hitting on you right? A ton of lesbians regularly have to deal with men trying to get in their pants. I just take it one step further and don't really want to have sex with anybody on my own.