Also, it is a joy. Yeah, it's expensive, and yeah, it's a ton of work. But it's like working on a very big project that you know you'll be proud of when it's done. I didn't understand it before because I only experienced other people's children, but it's different with your own children in a way that's hard to explain.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What I don't get is, why not just adopt? Instead of creating more potential for misery, why not reduce it while still being able to enjoy parenthood?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

It’s usually exceptionally expensive, especially considering insurance won’t be any help.

What I don’t get is why people pretend fostering isn’t even an option!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago

Idiocracy is eugenics propaganda. People don't get dumber because of their genes but because of worse education.
Like the other commenter said, adopt if you want to improve the world (and not just your own life), but that's harder without the biological attachment that comes from your own kids.

(Not trying to be rude btw, just noting generally my thoughts)