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Lemmy, how do you deal with heartbreak? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I'm struggling to cope. What are the ways you've dealt with heartbreak in the past?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Both my own "method" and a suggestion if I can cut it down to essentials:

Watch yourself closely. Don't fall into more traps. There's a lot of load already and you're not at your best. So don't make it worse. No drugs, alcohol, bad relationships, risks, incel or other insanity etc. Keep a careful and steady life and focus on healing and getting back on your feet as they say. Deal with things as they come. Work on yourself. Do things you care about. Avoid stress and especially anger and hate as much as possible.

When you're feeling stronger again, you might know if and what you want to get into.