remotelove

Unfortunately, I can't write a full novel about all the nuances of being a parent. If you read my words, I tried to generalize and caveat where possible. I am being very blunt and direct and its not hard to understand that it's going to piss off someone.

My experience is absolutely not universal. Do you have a brain? Use it. Everything is situational. Adjust your actions accordingly. Be firm and kind but don't give up and cave to a child's demands. If you feel the need to judge an entire person by a single comment, you do you.

Too many parents I have seen get stuck in loops of negotiating with their kids and end up getting frustrated and yelling. People make tantrums out to be hyper-complicated when they really aren't.

Kids, for the most part, are mirrors of the parents behavior. Kids emulate behavior as it's a key part of development. If parents don't recognize their own actions and behavior has consequences, then they need to start looking deep.

One child is grown and the other almost is, and I rarely use this instance, btw. A more complete history is on lemmy.ca.

My children are A/B students and think for themselves. I haven't been angry with my kids in years and only then was it when they did something that potentially caused them harm. They don't get in trouble or get in fights. Now that the most difficult years of parenthood are over, I get to spoil them a little.

I am an engineer, and have a respectable career. I recognize psychedelics as helpful to society and are 100% legal where I live. Guns are a hobby, not my personality. (My other hobbies are plentiful as well. If you want to learn about electronics, computers, IT security, basic CNC machining, 3D printing, or numerous other topics, let me know!)

I knew it was a matter of time before these quips came up. There is nothing I said that was harmful or even suggested abuse. If parents can't look at themselves and realize that most of their child's behavior is a direct result of how the parents themselves behave, well, I can't help them.

It is absolutely possible to treat the child like a person. My point is that most tantrums are allowed by the parents because of frustration.

The reason for tantrums should be clear as day to the parents. Usually, the kid is wanting something or not wanting to do something badly. Kids are not complex and their basic needs should be second nature to parents by the time they are old enough to throw a tantrum.

When a child is old enough to throw a tantrum, they are able to understand words, generally. IMHO, the parent needs to be firm, not "strict". Old phrases like "the parents are always right" or "because I said so" should be thrown in the trash where they belong.

For example, when I was at the mall with my first daughter (she was 4, I think.) she threw her first (and last) tantrum in the middle of the crowded mall because she wanted to go into the Disney store as we were leaving. My reaction was quick and firm. I immediately squatted down to her eye level, ensured eye contact and that she was fully focused on me. (Being quick about my response was important.) I explained that throwing a tantrum was not going to help her situation one bit. I didn't raise my voice or hold her down. I didn't threaten her with punishment or anything like that. She understood immediately that she did not like my shift into "daddy mode" and the battle was over quicker than it started.

My approach there was to quickly snap the kids attention directly to me. Using words they understand is important, of course, but I explain what they are doing is not right. I have them repeat the point of what I say to make sure they understand it, out loud.

If, by chance, the parent actually doesn't understand what the child needs, that is a perfect time to ask. Help the child communicate their needs properly.

How that is applied is situational, but the underlying method is the same. Break the endless cycle of the kid saying "but I want" and the parent just saying "no".

Tantrums are all the same. It's a pointless escalation of a situation by both the child and the parent.

Neurodivergence is a special case, obviously. However, using distraction and simple logic can help as well. There have been a few tantrums by my nephew I have stopped cold using the same method. It is more challenging because of the needs of the child, but it works.

That press release was so short, it bypassed the paywall. I looked around a bit but couldn't find which companies had their exports halted. (It hasn't been released yet?)

I had never heard about them until now. However, if amanita extracts are your thing, go for it. I did look over their site and was able to gleen a bit of information.

While I applaud them for publishing test results for heavy metals and other toxic compounds, they do not publish any tests for muscimol potency. (They have LAB TESTED as a sales point, but it is misleading.)

They are probably just relying on powdered bulk amanita muscaria to average out the muscimol content, if I had to guess. Less risky that way, I suppose.

Looking at their other products, especially their Lions Mane gummies, they are insanely overpriced and spiked with caffeine. There is no indication about what kind of Lions Mane product they are using. It could be below dirt cheap mycelium or it could be the fruit itself. Dunno. (Lions Mane mycelium is being sold as powder now, especially on Amazon, which is absolutely pointless.)

With Lions Mane, I believe that recent studies that were focused on its benefit started at 5 grams per dose, not 500mg. With the gummies they are selling, you have to basically take an entire bag to hit "normal" dosage levels for any of the mushroom powders they are selling. And no, medicinal mushroom dosages are not standardized. However, the dosages are usually much higher in plain capsules of the same types. Regardless, you will get so hyped on caffeine, it will negate any positive benefits.

Honestly, it looks like their products are just a novelty.

It has been rumored that people that cannot easily visualize images in their head when sober won't get intense visuals when they trip. So, when I say "chair", can you visualize a "chair", or do you just think of the word "chair" in your head? So, depending on how your brain is wired it can take substantial amounts (5g or maybe even more) to get visuals and that is a trip that takes some serious practice to manage once that boundary is crossed. (Visuals are only one component to a trip and TBH, I have never heard of shrooms feeling like alcohol. Disorienting, sure. 5th of Jack disorienting is new to me.)

Weed makes me super paranoid these days. I love to grow it still and give it away when I do.

Also, crack and meth are just "dirty", IMHO. They basically leave you strung out and wanting more. It's not worth even trying, to be honest. I have tried them both and will never touch them again. Just don't, even on your death bed. 100% not worth.

Odd. I have been catapulted in to several distant galaxies since this post and lived to tell the tale. Still, it affects different people in different ways. Having a fresh supply of "specialty" strains has provided its own unique benefits, for sure.

I am just over the "spiritual awakening" boundary myself. Over the last several months since this post, I have gone through some major shifts and it has absolutely been an amazing journey.

While I never will be religious, going through several instances of absolute ego dissolution has absolutely awakened something that I can only describe as spiritual. Once I saw for myself how fragile our perception of reality could be, it changed something. I dunno quite what, but it did.

While I still eat a couple of grams here and there, I don't really see the need to do more than that anymore. It's weird how that works.

My anxiety and depression are just shadows of what they once were. My weight has stabilized and my body is actually healing from what was years of alcoholism. (I actually quit drinking about a year ago but my health only recently stabilized once I was able to get my mind back on what amounts to a new plane of existence.)

Quitting drinking probably saved my life but shrooms are helping me rebuild my life. Well, shrooms pointed me in a really healthy direction, anyway.

Count me in and my availability is "yes" for normal awake hours for someone on MT.

I have quite a bit of info on shrooms I would love to continue to share.

Under this same username on lemmy.ca, feel free to read into my recent history. I left this instance because this community was banned and I am happy to see a change of heart.

https://lemmy.world/post/3165787

The Dread Pirate Roberts reference is from the movie Princess Bride.

Wesley spends years building up an immunity to a fictional substance called "iocaine powder", the most deadly substance known to man. He tricks a foe into drinking wine laced with it, killing his foe while he survives.

https://princessbride.fandom.com/wiki/Iocaine_powder

The admins were using the legal staus of shrooms in other countries (besides their own) as a justification for removing the community. Ok, cool. Now apply that reasoning fairly across other communities.

Clarifying a point is not hard and they do get very specific with other rules as well, if you haven't read them. They could easily say that drug trade on lemmy.world is forbidden. Easy.

Also, chill with the ad hominem arguments. Trying to use insults to prove yourself correct just makes you look like the jackass.

Again, I don't think you understand the full scope of the points I am making. I understand your points, but they are just bad ones.